I’m 21 years old and feeling really unprepared for adulthood after struggling with depression and isolation. I finished high school at 16 and started university in 2021, but everything changed when the full-scale war broke out in my country in 2022. I had moved abroad for my studies, and mentally, I just collapsed. I fell into severe depression, gained weight, stopped taking care of myself, and lost all motivation. Coping with the war and losing people was overwhelming, and instead of enjoying these supposed 'best years' of my life, I felt like I disappeared. Most of my university experience was online due to COVID, which limited my social interactions even more. I isolated myself further because of my depression, leading to a lack of close friends or even acquaintances. I think I lost my communication skills during that time. I completed my degree in graphic design in October 2024, but I still haven’t landed a proper corporate job. Finding one in my area has been tough, and honestly, I’m not sure I feel ready for it. Before all this, I was very social and outgoing, but now I feel like I’ve broken down. Over the past couple of years, I’ve slowly started to recover. I’ve lost some weight, made an effort with my appearance, and started talking to people again. It feels good to be approached and complimented, reminding me that I’m still here. However, I feel a sense of panic about my future. I had a life plan: finish school early, have an amazing university experience, get a good job, make decent money by 25, and start a family by 28. None of that has happened, and I’m angry at myself for what I perceive as wasted years. I’ve even considered going back to university for a more stable degree, but I would need to work while studying to support myself and rely on my parents for financial help, which is complicated given our strained relationship. I’m feeling stuck and scared about adulthood. I worry I’ve ruined my future and missed my chance to enjoy being young. I have graphic design skills, but I’m not great at math and physics. I love subjects like biology, psychology, history, and literature, but I want to find something that offers job stability and a good salary. Has anyone else faced similar challenges in their early 20s and managed to rebuild their life? What steps did you take?
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